HAPPY BIRTHDAY SENATOR FRANCIS "KIKO" PANGILINAN! Thank you sir for being an inspiration to the Filipino people especially to the youth. May God bless you with all the best things that this life can offer. Many more birthdays to come sir! God bless you always. Again, HAPPY HAPPY BRITHDAY SIR! =)

Letting go after a break-up can be the most arduous and painful part in a relationship, sometimes even torturous depending how long the relationship lasted. Loving the person so much and giving him time and effort are the primary reasons why some people have a difficult time letting go. In other circumstances, people are fearful of starting the dating process again, and want to dodge it at all costs.


The past months have been painful for me. I must admit that after our break-up, I was still hopeful that we can iron-out things. But as days passed, I learned and experienced a lot of things that made me accept the painful truth. I thought by mere acceptance, moving on and letting go will be easy. But I was wrong.


Through my experiences, I have discovered that the only real way to let go is to give it time. Yes, it is brutal especially when thoughts of him arbitrarily pop into my mind. I instantly start to feel the emptiness again and unfortunately, this leads to compulsive behaviour. I get the urge to call or text my ex and tell him I miss him or check on him.


It has been more than two months already. I will be hypocrite if I’ll say I’m over him and I’ve moved on already. I’m still in the process. Slowly but surely, I’m taking steps towards healing and letting go…


Today, I had the opportunity to ponder on everything that happened. It pains me a lot to remember but I was able to realize a lot of things. These things gave me the will to go on with the process and I want to share these concepts to everyone especially to those who are going through the same phase.


First, you must comprehend that there’s a reason behind the break-up. If there hadn't been a dilemma, there wouldn't have been a break-up in the first place. Once you come to terms with that logic, you are one-step closer to letting go.


Second, stop yourself from making that one text, or sending that email. That’s not helpful! If you were the "dumpee", you are only making yourself look desperate. You might be thinking, "Well, what if my ex calls me?" In the case of the "dumpee", its okay to respond, but don't get your hopes up. Typically, the only reason why the "dumper" is trying to make contact with you is to make sure you are miserable, while they are out hooking it up with other people or enjoying a new relationship. It's strange, but in most cases, the "dumper" feels that even though they broke up with you, you shouldn't be seeing other people. If your break-up was mutual you might have a chance of rekindling the relationship, but it's not always the case. Be aware of the situation.


Third, it won't be the right time to start dating, but it is time to get out and start meeting new people. Don’t lock yourself in your room. Go out with friends! They will ease the process of a break-up immensely.


Lastly, life is short. Don't squander time crying over someone who is most likely not shedding a tear for you. There is always someone else waiting out there in the same boat as you. Just bear in mind that God has prepared someone for you whom he has beautifully created and molded. This person will love you for who and what you are. In God’s perfect time, you’ll find eternal happiness with him.


Cheer up! It’s not yet the end of life! =)


"There are plenty of fish in the sea."

You just don’t have any idea how difficult it is to wake up every morning just to die again during the day because of the pain…

I miss you a lot! I miss your presence! I miss everything about us!

Sometimes, we just have to accept the fact that not all good things last forever. At some point in our journey, we have to learn the art of letting go even if such will mean tremendous pains. It is only through these pains that we can re-discover ouselves and find the very essence of life…